Anything learned about masturbation from the outside really only serves as a jumping off point for understanding the unique desires and quirks of each body. That being said, hearing about other people’s experiences, challenges and successes can be empowering and enlightening. 

Cliteracy 

Start lying in a comfortable position. Lying on the back or side allows easy access to the clitoris, while lying on the belly offers the opportunity to introduce an external object such as a pillow for further stimulation. Spread the labia, and use two fingers to start to circle the clitoris. The head of the clitoris can be very sensitive, so rubbing circles around it and moving the clitoral hood up and down can provide less intense stimulation,  or even rubbing the clitoris through fabric. Start slowly, and get progressively faster and add more pressure if that feels good.

Penile Pleasure 

Make yourself erect by moving the head of your penis around in circles or rubbing it against your leg. Grip the shaft of your penis so that your index finger falls on your frenulum (see page 9) and your thumb falls opposite. Tighten your thumb and index finger while moving them around each other in a circular motion. When you are erect, move your hand up and down your shaft. Lubrication is completely optional – if it’s dry, the friction between your thumb and head,  palm, and shaft will feel good. If you are using lube or lotion, the feeling will be more diffuse and good in a different way. Water is abrasive.  If you are in the shower, use soap to keep your hands lubricated. It is highly recommended to plan out where you are going to ejaculate before you start, rather than in the moment. This could be a tissue, toilet paper (flushable), the shower,  or even a condom.